You probably think it’s a bit odd me throwing my best self development and Life Coaching books of 2011 at you with half the year to go, right?
I guess it is, but I thought as it’s holiday time and people are heading off on vacations it would be cool to share with you 4 brilliant must read books that you’ll want to pack along with your Bermuda shorts, sombrero and stuffed donkey when you head for the beach.
How To Get A Grip by Matthew Kimberley
To say that ‘How To Get A Grip‘ is the funniest self development book I’ve ever read is a huge understatement, because it’s actually one of the funniest books I have ever read period!
I barely knew Matthew when he contacted me via Twitter and asked me if I’d do an interview on his “How I got my first client?” series. Being the publicity whore I am I naturally agreed and after the interview Matthew asked if he could send me a copy of his book.
I groaned inwardly because I felt honor bound to say, “Yes of course you can mate, I’d love to see it!”
When really I wanted to say “Seriously? Do you have to? I have a stack of books that have been sent me by well-meaning souls that remain unread and yours will probably go the same way”
I’m not sure if it was the books in your face yellow and green cover or the tagline of “Forget namby-pamby, wishy-washy, self help drivel. This is the book you need” but I didn’t consign the book to my queue knowing that I’d probably never get to it, but started reading as soon as it arrived.
To say this isn’t your grandmas self development book would be a whacking great under statement, because there are veteran Marines who would wince at some of the language Mr Kimberley employs. If that is, they could stop laughing long enough to do so.
Nevertheless, Kimberley nails point after point and really, truly, knows his self development shit. Admittedly the style wont appeal to everybody, but I think it will appeal to everybody that likes my sense of humor, because he’s like me, only funnier (the bastard!).
The highest compliment I can pay this book is to say I really, really, wish I’d written it because it’s brilliant, hysterical and totally on point.
The only downside if you are American may be that there is a lot of British cultural references and slang that may go straight over your head, but that is a small price to pay.
Currently How To Get A Grip is only available from the Book Depository in the UK in hard copy or from Amazon.co.uk as an ebook, but the great news for the former is they ship free worldwide so no excuses for not buying.
Your Brain At Work by David Rock
Don’t worry you haven’t slipped through a wormhole and gone back in time. Yes this book did come out last year. Yes I did make it my best book of 2010. And yes, I do have it sat at the #2 position for The 20 Greatest Self Development Books Ever Written.
However, it has been released on audio this year and I immediately bought it for my iPhone to go through the material again.
On second pass I’m going to reconsider placing it at #2 in my all time list because I think I was wrong to do so.
It should be at #1 because this book is frickin ridiculously, outrageously and mind-blowingly awesome.
If you want to know why Cannabis Is Better For You Than Multi-Tasking, this book will tell you. If you want to know how and why reframing (also called reappraisal in neuroscience) works, this book will tell you. And if you want to know why you sometimes can’t walk and talk at the same time, this book will tell you.
If I had a Life Coach training company, ‘Your Brain At Work’ would be required reading. If you’re serious about self development and/or you’re a Life Coach yourself, then read this book, and then read it again, and then come back here and thank me.
Life Is What You Make It by Peter Buffett
As far as I’m concerned “Life Is What You Make It: Find Your Own Path To Fulfillment” can be a game changer if the reader allows it to be and that’s all we can ask from any self development book.
It would be easy to wonder what the son of one of the worlds wealthiest men could offer in terms of down to earth advise for ‘average folk’. I know I wondered that when Iw as originally sent the book, and the answer is, a lot!
Lets make one thing very clear, Peter Buffett was very, very, lucky having the parents he had.
You maybe thinking, “No shit Sherlock, that’s fairly obvious” but you’d probably be thinking that for the wrong reasons.
He wasn’t lucky because he had fabulous wealth heaped upon him, because he didn’t. In fact his father gave him less than $100k and which didn’t last long and there were no further hand outs.
Peter was lucky because he could see growing up that it wasn’t money that made people happy.
In fact, his father was a very long way from being wealthy when Peter was in his youth. Even when he did start to make a lot of money doing what he loved, it didn’t change him one jot.
Did you know that Warren Buffett still lives in the same modest house he bought in the 50′s?
There are a number of reasons I love this book not least of which is that Peter really understands the value of values.
He doesn’t ram his view of the world down the readers throat, but encourages them to reach their own conclusions through a process of self evaluation and listening to their authentic self.
This tolerance came from his mother who constantly encouraged him to read about different religions, cultures and ideas. There was no dogmatic ‘this is how it is‘ in their household, only a live and let live approach and a desire to understand. How cool is that?
The book has a strong autobiographical feel to it and even the stories Peter relates that don’t involve him, involve friends of his. I like that approach because it made the book a lot more personal, warm and authentic.
If you are at a crossroads in your career or you have kids that are high school or university age, then I seriously recommend you grab Life Is What You Make It because I feel sure it can help guide you or a loved one through a tricky time.
If you’d like to know more about Peter, I did a video interview with him and had a whole load of fun. You can check it out here.
What If? by Eldon Taylor
My post ‘When Is It Ok To Lie?’ was inspired by reading this quirky, interesting and at times disturbing book.
I think it’s fair to say that with the possible exception of the brilliant Prometheus Rising by Robert Anton Wilson, I’ve never read a book that required me to be so open-minded and to change my point of view on what seems like an almost a chapter by chapter basis, but What If? does that.
What If? is a collection of moral dilemmas and situations, many of which occurred in real life, that will challenge your belief system and what you thought you knew to be true, to the core.
In fact Taylor even had me wondering if we are all merely pawns in a game being played by higher beings. And no, I’m not joking.
If you read stuff merely to back up what you already believe, then this book will probably piss you off. On the other hand, if you like to stretch your thinking, then I suspect you’ll love it.
I would love to hear any recommendations you may have for books that you have read this year and totally blew you away. Spill the beans in the comments!
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Awesome! As a bit of a personal development junkie, I love posts like this :) Thanks for sharing your reviews of these books. I have actually been on a fiction kick lately, reading Ayn Rand and some others but it’s time to get back to my favorite genre. Your Brain at Work looks particularly good – I added it to my (ever growing) queue on Amazon. Thanks!
You’ll not be disappointed by Your Brain at Work Andrew and I’d recommend you insert it at the top of your queue!
Tim, I had to comment straight away! I started reading your post and I just got past the recommendation for “How to get a grip” when I thought, “Fuck it, I’ll buy that on Kindle and read it now.” I remembered that you’d emailed me about it a few days ago, and after all, I AM on holiday! I’m 3 pages in and laughing my pants off already. I’ll get around to reading the rest of your post later, this book is quality! Cheers!
Put your pants back on Rob, it’s not big and it’s not clever.
BTW, you can get HTGAG on Amazon.co.uk, it’s only about 4 quid for the Kindle version too.
Thanks for the heads up I shall insert it in the post forthwith!
Tim, thanks so much. Glad it tickled your tits.
As Rob says (thanks Rob!) the book is available to UK shoppers on Amazon.co.uk, but the US edition won’t be on Amazon.com until September …
I shall have to interview you when it does come out mate, just don’t come swanning around here being funnier than I am, that’s all I ask.
BTW, is that gravatar picture you????
Yes, that’s me when I was fuller of face and sideburned. Before I got a grip, I suppose …
Would LOVE to do an interview in September. I won’t let you forget!
Hi Tim,
Thank you for these great suggestions! Matthew’s book looks really interesting & Your Brain At Work was recommended to me three times in the last 24 hours, so I’ll definitely order them both soon.
Have a great day!
Josip Barbaric
Holy crap, now that’s what I call fate when 3 people recommend something in such a short space of time!
Hi Tim,
I sort of gave up on self development books years ago but your blog and a few others has given me the urge to try some new ones. I used to read Tony Robbins and stuff like that but found some of the stuff a bit too far fetched. Since accidently finding your blog and appreciating your style and down to earth approach to self develpment I think I will take up one or two of your reccomendations. thank you.
I have started to think I need to start some self development and goal setting so I will give it all another whirl! Now only question is, which one do I pick first?
Cheers,
Kenny.
That’s a tough call Kenny although as I have already said Your Brain At Work is the best book I have ever read it would be difficult for me to not say that.
Matthews book is excellent although maybe aimed a tad more at the self-development newbie—–>intermediate.
My recommendation: Hara: The Vital Center of Man by Karlfried Graf Dürckheim, written in 1956.
I knew I could rely on my main man Duffy to come up with something out of left field. Thanks!
I love the books by Peter Buffet and Eldon Taylor.
Two must read. Thanks
You’re welcome, hope you enjoy!
Your blog is very interesting. Ya i also think that Self Development and Effective Communication Skills build good relationships.we must have self confident so we can do our work very carefully and successfully. I have also read tips about Self Development in Health & Happiness web magazine. In this magazine there are many tips about Self-development, Happiness, Health treatment, mental health & about our life style.
Do you work for that magazine by any chance?
Finished HTGAG yesterday. Have bought for some friends and recommended to several others. There were some bits of killer advice in there, and I love the in-your-face style. Will write a full Amazon review in a few days when I’ve had a bit more practice with its advice. Defo in my top 5 self-help books.
Oi Collins, what about a review for HTBRAH ya bastard!!!
I’ll have to finish it first. Don’t worry, I’m reading some more tonight!
Thanks Tim. I’ve just ordered How to Get a Grip from Book Dep. Sounds like my kinda book.
I’ve also watched a lecture from David Rock “Your Brain at Work” on YouTube. It was ace so do intend to read that too.
Link to YouTube Google Tech Talk for Brain at Work (David Rock)
http://youtu.be/XeJSXfXep4M
Oh and How to Get a Grip is only £4.50 with free postage on Book Depository at the moment. (UK)
Thanks for the heads up on that. At under a fiver that’s a huge bargain!
Let me know what you think when you’ve read it.
Thanks for the tips! It’s always nice to get some fresh input. :)
I think the latest PD book I read and can recommend was The Millionaire Fastlane.
Never heard of it so thanks a lot Alice.