Since writing my post ‘Dream Big Or Go Home’ for the How To Be Rich and Happy website I have been giving a lot of thought to goals and dreams.
I got to wondering how many brilliant discoveries, inventions and breakthroughs the world has missed out on because people were worried about sharing their ideas through fear of ridicule?
I’ve had many clients reluctant to tell me their really big dreams, usually by insisting they don’t have any. I’m sure at an unconscious level they by not dreaming big they’ll save themselves from the pain of ridicule and failure.
But as I said in that post:
‘The pain of a failed life is exponentially worse than the pain of a failed goal’
When I tell clients it’s not only ok, bit I insist they do they talk about the really big stuff, they often light up. It’s almost as though they needed permission to be who they really are or want they want to be.
The reality is, and cheesy though it sounds coming from me, nobody needs permission to shine.
You know what my big goal is, that’s it’s to give away 1,000,000 copies of How To Be Rich and Happy and it fits the goal framework perfectly.
I also have a dream of being consulted by Government on education. I’m not even sure what that means, but I know it has me pumped when I think about it.
When I see what people like Jamie Oliver and Sir Ken Livingstone are doing to help kids in totally different ways it excites the hell out of me.
It would be easy to ridicule that dream. After all I left school at 15, don’t have a degree and my only experience with education was trying to avoid it. But that’s not the point, because just thinking (or talking) about it makes me feel more alive and energized.
I don’t give a shit about people that think I’m nuts. I don’t give a shit about people that think I’m not capable of such a thing and I don’t give a shit about people that get offended by me saying I don’t give a shit rather a lot.
That may sound harsh, but the reality is if I do start to care, I’ll start to compromise on the things that are most crucial to me. Whereas I’m more than happy to compromise when deciding what to watch on TV, what we have for dinner and what the A/C is set at, I’m not prepared to do it with my life.
I had 40 years of compromise and that is enough for any sane person in my opinion.
So for today I want you to not give a shit what other people think. I want you to dream big and then I want you to dream a bit bigger. I want you to let your mind run rampant after asking it what it really, really wants.
There are no road blocks, barriers or hurdles in your way. You have the talent, the time, the money, the belief, the knowledge, the commitment, the tenacity and the support of all those around you. There are no excuses because you can have it all.
So what’s it to be? What in your heart of hearts do you really want?
The starting point of achieving any huge goal is admitting to yourself that you want it no matter how crazy it may seem, and that’s where I can help.
I want you to throw caution to the wind and tell me and others what your huge dream/goal is.
I want you, and yes I do mean you, to leave a comment even if you have never left a blog comment in your life before. And that doesn’t mean hitting reply if you get this post via e-mail so that only I see what you have written.
I want you to throw it out there, because after all the worst thing that can happen is things stay the same and you don’t move any nearer to your dream, but at least (unlike many people) it wont be because it never left the comfort of your own head.
If the worst thing that can happen is not much at all other than helping to show other people it’s ok to dream, and the best is you actually start moving towards something huge for you in your life, what exactly are you waiting for?
Tim Brownson is a Certified Life Coach and has been unsticking people and helping them reach their true potential since 2005. If you would like to know how he can help you
No. 1- I wish to see the whole world before my final departure.
No. 2 – I Want to understand the brains of enlightened people like Buddha, Lao-Tze and others and Wish I can also think like them.
No. 3 – Want to leave behind few good acts so that my kids and some more people remember and can say there stayed a Kavita…
Too many goals…
Best,
Kavita
You called me a wuss!
Okay, one dream? I want to proofread people’s blogs before they publish them, for ten bucks a blog. I’ll be rolling in the dough AND doing something I love. ;P
One more? Hmmm. I want to write a best selling novel or two and maybe a best selling nonfiction book that knocks all the new age bunny foo foo stuff back to a level of reality that is useful and practical to people.
Ooo and I want to develop an on-line ‘Thing’ so I can work from home, meet my financial needs, and help others using tarot, dream work, and a kind of coaching or counseling to do it.
That’ll teach ya to call me a wuss!
I’ve always wanted to destroy the music industry.
I find it kind of disgusting that we expect a track to cost us a buck. And that musicians are happy to do this. It’s ART you morons and this kind of thinking just reinforces the idea that there is no other way to do this.
And that concerts are so expensive that when people go they expect pyrotechnics and dancers dropping in suspended bubbles out of hot air balloons (I’ve seen this happen and it is pretty spectacular, but certainly not for the music). And I’m disgusted that companies monopolise such things and turn them into a vapid numbers game.
So, I want to build a nice comfy career in other areas that interest me (and there are many I love very much) and enjoy doing music for free because I want people to remember you don’t just have to do one thing and you don’t need some crass company digging into what you love and fundamentally altering its nature just because they tell you this is the only way to share something you adore.
Same reason people might self publish books really I suppose.
I want to figure out what I’m really good at, define what I’m really passionate about, and find where those two groups intersect so I can do work I love and be successful at it.
I want to pare down the trappings of “civilization” in my life to the point where I can live anywhere I want and move on a moment’s notice to somewhere else.
I want my son to be proud of me.
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I visualise myself creating an online business that I am passionate about, that serves other people or the environment in some way, which I can run from home, investing no more than 15 hours a week that will bring me an income to pay off my mortgage within 5 years and will get me to a financial position where I have more than enough money for my every day needs and wants.
I see a finished book which I have written, that becomes a best seller and inspires people to change their lives for the positive.
I see myself in a consultancy role to schools and businesses, in a capacity which will help improve the future of the planet for my children.
I’m bringing into my life a billionaire who has lots of money but no ideas on how to use it in a useful way and sees me as a great investment because I have lots of ideas that enthuse and motivate them to invest in me.
I’m creating spaces in my life for positive energy to flow in. I’m getting rid of things that no longer serve me or bring me joy instead of hanging on to physical and metaphysical clutter.
I’d also LOVE to lose my inhibitions and sing, make music and dance in a public space, spontaneously in a way that delights other people and gets them joining in with the fun.
@ Kavita – I like those, especially #3
Wulfie – Yeh except for mine that is because it would take you so long to iron out the grammar and typos. Nice un-wussy dreams.
@ Mr-crash – A mission to destroy eh? What about making it a dream to make the recording industry redundant through supplying music through alternative means?
@ Jason – That’s a great example of the goal being that of having a goal and that’s equally cool. I’m sure your son will be proud come what may.
@ Ria – Brilliant stuff and it looks like we have some crossover. As Ken Robinson said in The Element, if you really would LOVE to do something, then you’d do it!
Glad to see you finally know your age man. ;)
My dreams:
I want to be a millionaire by age 21
I want to help start up dozens of small businesses that REALLY make a difference in the world.
I want to travel to all 7 continents by the age of 21.
I want to help build several schools in less fortunate nations.
I want to be a best selling author and public speaker.
Those are my dreams and I’m not ashamed.
I want to quit my job and be an artist all the time, not just after work.
@ Bud – 2 of those are goals and 3 dreams, do you know which are which?
@ Carmen – Cool, when do you want it by?
Well, you know mine, but I’m willing to put them here on public display.
1. I want to be a bestselling novelist by the time I’m 25 with 50+ books over the course of my career
2. Entrepreneur- with the ability to travel
3. Thriving Marriage
4. I want to have an effect on how children with learning disabilities are refereed to by doctors/parents/teachers. This needs work!
5. By the time I reach 30 I want make enough to be able to offer my parents the chance to retire and live comfortably.
6. I want to be a millionaire by the time I’m 26
These are just a few. Thanks for the forum to share.
7. I want to inspire people with my words (written and oral) and action
I want to be a tv personality! Not just some ridiculous made-up “Entertainment Tonight” kind of personality and not just a reality tv star. I want to be an expert on a television show.
And I want to write a novel. A lovely, thought-provoking, yet easy-reading novel :)
@ Liz – They all look very doable ;-)
@ Erin – As long as you don’t want to be the female equivalent of Dr Phil, I’m good with that!
Goals:
1) Run a 26.2 miles marathon (this October)
2) Be 190lbs ( I lost 150lbs already)
3) Race an Ironman (its in the making)
4) Start a non for profit organizations to help local communities start sport clubs for kids.
5) Have my own clients to coach for business.
6) There many more simple ones, like do 100 push ups and sit ups and send 50 cards to 50 people in 50 states with a personal message.
The way I break up my goals by months and lifelong. This way as the months go by the lifelong list gets done.
1) Be a semi millionaire by the time I’m 25
2) Be a millionaire by the time I’m 26
3) Even before those two are reached (:p), i want my family to be ok money wise, not worrying about tomorrow, let alone worrying about the future
4) Would love to own my own gaming shop as well :).
Tim, thank you for this post. I really needed a bit of energy and I got it here.
My Big Goal is to have a working private coaching practice along side a successful acting career in the next two years. The challenge of coaching is one I must face to break through to another level in this life. I am inspired to share the talents and strengths I posess through working as an energy coach. I believe in the power of thought and sound. Meditiation is something I am studying and practicing and I want to share that and show how organizing our energy can be a useful tool in adding value to our lives. I desire more and more quality in my life as each day passes and I am learning to be patient with myself.
Acting has and will always be my first passion. The butterflies I get in my gut when I think about performing tantilize me. Acting is a very emotional and mind-bending experience for me and that is why it is second to coaching. I feel the need to protect myself.
My goal scares me sometimes when I think of how big it is, then I remember to let it go and let life. Being friendly with the moment and remembering gratitude is where I am right now.
Thanks again this was great.
@ Roy – Wow man I had no idea you had already lost so much wait. Well done mate! And screw the simple ones, I like the HUGE ones ;-)
@ Bex – I have no idea what a semi-millionaire is, but I am pleased you only hang round there for a year before you hit full on millionaire. BTW, intrigued to know how come you are linking through to Glens site?
@ Wynoami – You’re welcome and make that challenge one you want to face rather than must face. It takes t he pressure off.
I know you wrote this for everyone, but I feel as if you wrote it specifically for me.
Dream: To be able to write only what I want and only when I want, and to be known internationally for that writing. To have my writing touch millions of people and change their lives in a positive way.
I want to be a Chef de Partie before age 28 even if I didn’t take up culinary arts.
I want to practice Wing Chun.
I want to be involved in an Airsoft community.
I want to play gigs at bars.
I want to be a bartender.
I want to be financially free.
I want to be good at driving, like really really good.
I want to be good at archery.
I want to own a collection of different kinds of samurai swords, and guns, and lighters, and cars, and weapons, etc.
And so on and so on. These are just personal goals. There’s still “us” (me and my partner) goals (like I want to be the best lover), and there’s “her” goals (like experience working in different countries), and there’s “family” goals (like a house with a pool), and there’s “kids” goals (like our kids being good at driving at the age of 12).
There’s just so many of them.
I want to have an extremely successful video blog, where I share my ideas with the world. I am currently working on my goal, and my true passion!
I love dancing. I danced for about 5 years when I was very young (probably 5-10 years old). I quit, because of what other people thought of me. I want to go back, and punch that little Joshua in the face! And tell him that he should continue dancing, because he likes it, and he is very good at it!
I also love public speaking, and acting. I am very passionate in general, with performing. I also want to change the schooling system. After reading Bud’s post about education, I have become pretty furious with the education system. We need to teach people how to live. Compassion, Dedication, Getting out of their comfort zone, and doing what you love.
Not some ridiculous mathematical calculations. Why? Because if someone enjoys math or a particular subject, maybe they can take a special section of school, focused on that particular area. It would make society so incredible! Teach people to stand out, and to be eccentric! (well, at least eccentricity works for me!)
Oh, and I want to own an empire. Of something. I want to be a billionaire. Not because of the money, but I just like the sound of the word, and it would be an awesome accomplishment.
“Billionaire”
“Billionaire”
It’s got a nice ring :)
Thanks,
Josh Lipovetsky.
I want people to come from all over the world to seek my advice and counsel. I want them to give me wealth because they appreciate what I have to offer.
I really enjoyed this blog.
Thanks
Ray
http://www.iamaguide.com
Not caring may be the lesser known path, but my goodness it is much more liberating. It takes a lot to be able to do something and not care what people think about it. The best part is it is never too late to adopt the philosophy.
Hey, Tim!
I want to develop an online community (maybe grows to offline support groups?), where people who have experienced a deep emotional wound that they’ve been working on, and working on, and working on … (you get the idea) help them find whatever it is they need to move on without perfect healing and without complete “closure.” I’d like to help them understand that there may be scars to accept and embrace, and maybe finding out that their lives have taken a different direction that might have been “Plan A” for them all along. I want to help them by using my intense creativity to write blogs, to nurture a forum, to create videos and workbooks and telecourses and moderate chats, and whatever else I can think of, and finally write my autobiography so many have told me the world needs.
I want to travel the US, but I don’t like flying and I want to bring my cat with me. So, I want to travel in a camper/RV. To help support my traveling, I want to write a second blog about my travels–from the perspective of my cat. :). That will serve as a sales platform for travel guides, also from my cat’s perspective, but with some help from me in including places to stay that allow pets and other important notes.
I’m working towards these goals as an “Empress-in-Training” in Chris Guillebeau’s Empire Building program, and by taking at least one small step a day.
Annie
I’d like to be an in-demand copywriter and Bluegrass singer, travelling the world with my work.
I’d also like to sell a whole book of fiction rather than just short stories.
And I’d really like my wisdom teeth back. But that might be one dream too far.
@ M – All worthy dreams even if I don’t know what they all are, but a number are easy to break into goals. Goals are easier to hit than dreams.
@ Josh – Do NOT punch your old self, he was doing the best he could with the information to hand at the time. Treat him like a younger borther and be protective and supportive. I took 40 years to find my true calling so you’re not quite over the hill yet!
If you do build an Empire promise me you wont lay waste to half of Asia.
@ Alisa – A good dream and of course I wrote it for you ;-)
@ Chelle – I think not caring has a bad press because it sounds a lot like apathy and indifference. Maybe low attachment is a better way of putting it and I agree.
My goal of 1,000,000 is a great motivator for me but if we only get to 5,000 I wont be upset or beating myself up because I know I’ll have done my best.
@ Annie – Don’t like flying or really hit scared of flying? If it’s the latter, let me know when you book your ticket and I’ll give you a free session to cure it.
@ Amy – With the brilliant work you’re doing with HTBRAH I feel sure you’ll be in demand very soon. As for the Bluegrass, well if I knew exactly what it was I could probably offer a better opinion.
Tim~
Nah, it’s not fear of flying. I just miss the scenery going by slow enough and close enough to really appreciate it. I’m one of those that would rather meander than use turn-by-turn directions to get there more quickly. ;)
Annie
My real, true life goal is to spend my time finding/rescuing homeless and otherwise untended dogs, cats, animals, and providing care and hopefully loving homes for them while at the same time bringing in enough of that icky bothersome stuff called money to survive myself. Therein lies *a* rub. I think I can do one; and I believe I can manage the other. Both both?! In my pitiful defense, I can say that I apply for every opening I believe I qualify for at Best Friends Animal Sanctuary in so. Utah, the largest of its kind in the U.S. I’d move in a heartbeat, if they’d take me: hang the arid, cold climate!
7 Continents and millionaire by 21 are goals. Others are dreams. Methinks I need to get more specific. ;)
I want to be a writer. I already spend my life writing things for a living; but I really want to chuck all that & be a published author. My home has squirreled away in it; many pages, from many 1/2 written stories. I know I could finish at least 1 of them in just a month or 2 but I don’t… I think I fear that if I do someone will decide it is good & then that will drag my life off in some crazy direction that I am not sure I am ready for yet.
Yes… Chicken…
Which is exactly why I am commenting on your blog instead of busy finishing up a draft of something or other
I want to have a thriving Coaching practice.
I want to be NLP certified.
I want to be a well known, published author.
I want to be self employed in the next 5 years in a way that allows me to dictate my working conditions.
I want to raise a happy, well adjusted, free thinking child who grows up to like me as a person (even if there are times in between they hate me).
I want to be mortgage free at 40
I want to have an income that allows me, after paying off my mortage, to set myself up for full retirement with no financial stress at 65.
I want to see much more of the world with at least 1 holiday a year as long as I am physically able to travel.
I want to be successful at contributing to a happy, contented and loving marriage for as long as our lives allow us.
Goals… I want to be a Chef de Partie before age 28.
I took up hotel management, but I kind of developed my passion for culinary arts “late” (it’s because of the practicum that I had at which time I was assigned at the kitchen). Now that I’ve graduated, I find the industry somewhat “against me”. I don’t want to think that I’m not fit for this kind of job, I just got sacked recently, working in the kitchen, since I lack skills (they can accomplish like 200% more than I can given the same amount of time, I can’t cope up with those technical jargons, I asked a lot of questions in a busy environment, and so on) and I also lack the knowledge. It came to the point that I’ve had second-thoughts regarding this new found passion. And since the economy is not good here (Philippines), I don’t think that I should spend more money on education, I don’t want to add up to my parents’ expense anymore. So I thought of working and then gaining the skills through experience, but then I got sacked.
All those other “dreams” that I’ve mentioned, they’re not as important as finding what my profession would be (they all boil down to hobby, as you can see). I always feel like I’m late, life is passing me by and all that. Tiger Woods started playing golf at age two. All the musicians that I’ve admired started music, on average, at age 8-12. I’ll be 21 this year and yet I still don’t know what profession I should really put my effort into. I tried to excel at a lot of fields, there was basketball, then music, then bartending, and now, being a chef. For me, passion for what I do is very important. I don’t want to work for the money (although money is cool) but for the love of what I am doing and what I am good at.
Given the situation that I’m in, how should I set my goals?
This is one of the most inspirational things I have read in ages.
Not sure where to start with the dreams….there are so many!
At the risk of sounding cheesy, probably to make a difference, to change the ways people look at life, particularly the powers that be, so that it can filter down to everyone.
To stop the corruption that all governements have, especially with regard to the control that companies like coke, mcdonalds and pharmeceuticals have over the laws that govern us all.
Wow, I could really have a rant now and write loads of dreams, I think I’ll get my notebook out!
Ta very much for a brilliant post!
Kate
http://www.improvedconfidence.com
@ Annie – Wow, that’s kinda cool imho!
@ Moonpie – SO what are you doing to make it happen? Have you tried shamelessly begging?
@ Bud – Correct sir!
@ Terry – I dunno whether I’d say chicken at all. Every action has a positive intent and maybe just part of you simply doesn’t want it badly enough? Tricky to say from a blog comment obviously but something is lurking under the surface.
@ Rachael – A good mix of dreams and goals. Don’t stop at Prac level with NLP, get your Master Prac too!
@ M – Who cares about Tiger Woods?
I took up life coaching at 42 and screw the economy it will bounce back. Look for reasons how you can make it happen because there’ll always be others willing to tell you why it wont.
Go and read The Element by Ken Robinson, there are lots of examples in there of people finding what they love to do late in life.
I want to travel around the world.
I want to have my own health cafe.
I want to start an accessory brand that will be as huge as Cartier and Chanel.
I want to believe that I can do all those above.
Okay, Tim, you asked for it.
#1 I’m “battling” with a mental illness that involves anxiety and depression. My goal here is a continuous learning how to work with, through, and around the condition in order to accomplish #2.
#2 To be a motivator; a barrier breaker; a speaker/writer/photographer/performer…whatever will bring others to a higher vision of possibility. To shake-up who people think they are and their world view. To break systems of mindless conformity and preach that we must embrace the Adventure Of Life continuously and without excuse.
I want to be an example and a creative inspiration. My reward would be a better world as a legacy.
@M-I am 61; I have had 3 careers and numerous jobs. My advise: Don’t get hung up in the problems of who’s doing better than you (there will always be some one). Don’t let anything kill your adventure!
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@ Sharon – If you want to believe, believe. What stops you?
@ Sanford – What if you weren’t battling? It is part of you. This is going to sound weird as fuck, but what stops you embracing it?
You cannot win a battle with yourself.
@Tim – That’s why I put quotes on the battling. I know that I must embrace it and cajole it, medicate it and/or ignore it, depending on the situation. So, no, it’s not a weird idea.
If I were missing a limb, I would need to accept what limits and workarounds were there. The battle is not one of confrontation, which I would surely lose, but one of deep acceptance, which requires great patience and endurance.
Having big dreams is important motivation in this adventure. I suppose “adventure” might be a better descriptor than “battle”.
@ Tim and Sanford:
Thanks guys, last week I was given two options by the employment agency, Hotel A for a kitchen job, Hotel B for a food service job. Hotel B looks more promising, given its name. But after thinking it over, I thought, “I got sacked because bla bla bla, but guess what, I’ve learned something and I’m better than how I was before, so wtf, I’ll just keep improving.”
As of now I don’t know whether or not this is a good choice I’ve made because I have started dreaming about working with Hotel B ever since it opened last year (at which time I was still a student trainee), maybe I’m just lucky my survival doesn’t depend on whether or not I have a job. But someday, I want to be fully independent and make my own name.
I want my bag label to take off and be succesful, make a decent income from it.
I want to build a shopping site, that has a fun loving, creative community, and staff that love building a fantastic community. Staff will be fun, loving, creative, helpful and also be able to shine and be “there real self”.
I want to never have to work for anyone else ever again and be able to live comfortably :)
@M- Glad things are looking up!
What ever job you get, find someone who is well respected in your area and ask them to mentor you. This will show your willingness to learn and desire to improve.
Good luck!
i’m going to be famous.
i’m going to help shape the new music industry.
i’m going to empower others to heal their country and the world.
@ Sanford
Yeah, for now I feel pretty good about the choice I’ve made. I just thought if I go for Hotel B and then work for a few months in service and then ask of being transferred in the kitchen, that would be a detour; a waste of time. The hotel will always be there but there won’t always be an opening position in the kitchen. I’ll give them my resume on Monday and let’s just see what happens.
Back to what Sir Tim was saying about not giving a shit about what other people are thinking. Just want to tell anyone that would be reading this that during the last job that I had (the one I just lost), I have had people communicating (like the look, the sigh, the shaking of head, etc) to me as if they’re telling me that I don’t belong there and that I suck at what I do and so on. I want to tell you that these people exist. They will look down on you because they have something that is better than yours (like technical skills on the job, working relationships with one another, relationships with the people in the higher part of the organizational chart (yes, politics is always there), position, and many other things). Taking any of them personally won’t do anyone any good. I can come up to them and tell them “you know what, you piss me off everytime I am working and you’re watching me while doing your own thing and you look at me like you see me as some kind of a pain in the ass to be with and everytime you do that I just want to scream and leave you guys with all the work that should be done since you’re better off without me and I’m sure that you’d be fine anyway” and I’m sure they’ll just say “huh?” because they have no idea of what was going on. For them, it’s just a regular work day. So by not giving a shit, I save myself from negative emotions. So save yourselves too. I can’t control what other people might think of me, so why would I waste my energy focusing on that? (Wait, I’m younger than most of you here, maybe you’ve learned this lesson while I was learning my first word)
I want to be a succesful composer, and write music for example for video games, film, etc. for living. I got some work in the field already, but I feel it is only a beginning and I can do so much more.
I got so many people telling me that I write amazing music, I just need to understand it myself, and overcome certain limiting beliefs.
@ Girl Startup – Good stuff, have you got it written down in a goal format?
@ Cindy – How famous and when by?
@ tjs – At least you know they’re self-limiting beliefs. Now all you need to do is kick their ass, right? ;-)
I’m going to find someone to love, travel the world, and become successful enough to give my family everything they want.
Here is my dream/goal: I want to help everyone in the UK become as comfortable doing basic maths as they are talking, texting, writing or walking. I want the mathematicians of the future to be as fascinating to the general public as athletes, film stars, or royalty. I want to be the Jeff Stelling of maths.
Basically, I want to save science and possibly the world. Where should I start?
@ Kevin – Love the positive language!
@ Colin – Holy crap that is BIG. I think you should start by having a beer. I’m struggling after that, maybe you could marry Carol Vorderman?
Hehe, that was the idea ;o) When I was 15, marrying Carol was pretty much my idea of heaven. Sadly, she’s gone off the rails a bit recently.
My Big Ideas at the moment are tutoring tutors to tutor and setting up a “Rosetta Stone of Maths” online learning tool. Eventually, I want to be working a 10-hour week and making enough money to live comfortably by the beach… total world domination in three years, tops.
1)I finally figure out what really makes me happy – as soon as possible.
2)I finally figure out what I am really good at and start doing it as much as possible – as soon as possible.
4)I let myself start being myself and loving myself instead of being who other people think I should be – today.
3)I turn my mental health challenges into strengths as I come to terms with and accept them as part of who I am – ongoing – unknown amount of time needed.
4)I earn more than enough money to more than adequately support my lifestyle – get it right within the next 30 days.
5)I attract the right people to help me see where I block myself from achieving my highest potential in life, in work, in earnings, to help me shift this stuff so I can move forward. I get new perspective. Starting immediately.
6)I reinvent myself, redirect my career and my life, spread my wings and soar. Get recognition and rewards I deserve. Already started metamorphosis.
7)I stay on the wagon 90% of the time. I don’t lose the plot! I am focussed.
8)I choose to be happy –
I affirm
” Today I will resolve to enjoy my life even more by being as carefree as possible, regardless of what is going on around me. I am a miracle – I make miracles happen – I manifest my goals and dreams almost instantly and on my time”
I’m going to influence people. In a huge measure. I’m going to explore the ways of breaking free and moving towards self-realization through creativity. That includes a next evolution step in religion.
I want to see my daughter smile again. I want to put a roof over her head because she is so good and deserves it so much. I want to overcome a lot of my ADHD obstacles and follow through with my website. I just want to make enough money to pay my bills, live in a home that is bigger than a studio and be able to take my dog to the vet when she is sick.
I want to stop ruminating. I want to stop feeling guilty because I didn’t give my daughter a family life, not even close.
I want to look forward. I want more confidence and I want to forget that I was told I was stupid every year I was in school. I want my daughter to feel confident and I want her to have self-esteem.
I am working two jobs. I stay up all night so that I can work on mypicturecookie.com. I need for it to succeed.
Thank you,
KD
I want to help people create fulfilling and enriching lives and in the process help create a more fulfilling and enriching life for myself and my family. I want to help people create more joy. I want to REALLY live.
Well unlike others here I really DON’T care about being a multi-millionaire (or even a mono-millionaire for that matter). So what do I want?
What I really want is to find myself again, to be able to say yes to people that invite me to do things without a hundred negative thoughts running through my head that suggest to me that staying home alone would be a better alternative.
- I want to be able to dance like and idiot without giving a shit what people think, and enjoy it.
- I want to reconnect with the people in my life that I have let slip as friend and tell them how much of a dick I was for ever loosing touch.
- I want the confidence back to realize something I know, but cant convince myself of: That Im actually not bad looking, and not the love child of Quazimodo and Barbra Streisand.
- I want to be able to talk as well with individuals as I do when Im the centre of attention (oddly Im pretty good at this, but thats generally because I can crack a joke or two).
- I want to be able to talk to strangers.
- I want to be able to not be jealous of those that are better looking/happier/taller/funnier/richer/etc than me.
But aside for that, I actually know what I want to do in real life. I always have, but I have yet to do either of these things:
1) Start a SMALL business (and keep it small)
I work in as a successful IT consultant, in a role I *previously* enjoyed, and I’d like to get that enjoyment back again. The problem is, that I know in my heart if hearts that I want to be running my own business instead of working for others. Problem is that I constantly feel like I need to learn more and more before I can do this, and I guess I just need to DO IT.
2) Travel ANYWHERE and Everywhere.
Rant over, I feel better now ;-)
@Tim Brownson
And before you say when:
- Traveling, by the end of this year DEFIANTLY
- Dance like an idiot – screw it, Im going to do this the next time I get a chance.
- Own business – Before Im 31 (I’m 29 now) but after I travel
- Say yes more to people – recently started.
- Reconnect with people – Trying but, after been such a shit friend its a slow process.
- Convince my self Im not ugly – Fuck this I hate vain people.
- Stop being jealous of people – Gonna need some guidance here,
Also:
- Learn to spell – Never.
Holy crap Chris – I usually stop responding to posts after a couple of weeks otherwise I’d be forever checking back and commenting on comments, but seeing as you managed to comment 3 times I feel I should respond.
Not sure if that’s true about most wanting to be a millionaire, I know it doesn’t apply to me. Actually, maybe it does, I would quite like to be rolling in it, but it’s not a driving factor at all and offers me little long-term motivation.
In fact money is a very poor motivator all round, people just don’t realize that.
A shit friend huh? Well maybe, maybe not, but I’m guessing a really shit friend wouldn’t even care they were a shit friend because they’re shit! As for the jealousy thing, hire a life coach ;-)
“As for the jealousy thing, hire a life coach ;-)”
Ha ha, maybe I would if I could afford it and you can guess what happens when someone doesn’t aspire to be rich ;-).
To be honest, I just wanted to rant somewhere and here was as good a place as any to do so. On the flip side, I have now downloaded your “Don’t ask stupid questions” book and follow you on twitter so maybe one day you’ll get yourself another client out of me.
@ Chris – Rant away mate that’s what the comments are for.
I hope you enjoy the book and How To Be Rich and Happy is way better, so if you do, I feel sure you’ll be back to buy that!
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I want to give up my day job and be a full time dancer, improviser, performer, teacher of what I love.
I want to be in studios and outisde performing and working with other performers, artists.
I want the work to be public.
I am taking the steps to make this happen, but it feels very slow.
i want to make a positive difference in the world
i want to finish my degree
i want my children to be proud of me and to use me as an example of how, despite obstacles, they can overcome and achieve great things!