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Oh Crap!When things aren’t going as planned in your life you’ve two options. You can deal with it, or you can whine about it. If you are offended by the word crap you might want to look away now. Oops, too late, sorry. httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RrpkQ0R89a4  Tim Brownson is a Certified Life Coach and has been unsticking people and helping them reach their true potential since 2005. If you would like to know how he can help you contact him now.12 comments to Oh Crap! |
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Wow I had to speed listen on that one Tim. Sorry about the extra iron thing. Maybe you could donate directly to anemic folks.
Crap in my life…
The stinkiest pile right now is the irresponsible 19 year old son who decided to take the summer off from school and work to enjoy the summer still expecting us poor ol’ parents to foot the bill. You might say, well why is that such a piece of crap Laurie, just tell him to enjoy his summer. This is a kid that has been on lithium in the past and doesn’t get delayed gratification. I love him but I don’t want him to move back home. I have been terrorized enough. So how to reframe this? Hummmm. Ok here is a try: My hub and I will give said offspring this opportunity to grow personally. Said child will have to learn to live on the food I mail him (he says he is starving and wants money) and will have to live on 20 dollars a week for gas to look for a job. The teen wants $300 a month to live on besides the rent money. This is not crap, really, it’s an opportunity for said teenager to become self sufficient.
OK, is this reframing? Is our solution enabling? This is a child I had arrested once. It’s all good right?
Of course I whine.
Thank you for the reminder to reframe, deal with stuff and stop whining. I could use this reminder daily I think.
It IS a good thing that you caught it now – before all those cancers developed.
Thanks again.
Maybe we can just make you vegan to induce B12 deficiency which results in the inability to produce red blood cells.
LOL…that would not be a good solution FYI because it would debilitate the nervous system. Nonetheless, I am sorry that you got this diagnosis, but honestly based off your symptoms it could have been a lot worse. This might just be the best case scenario, and with proper treatment and management you should indeed be feeling better soon.
Dang! The double whammy from both parents. Did you send out emails to the rest of your family to get tested? In most women it doesn’t show up as a problem until menopause, but still can cause considerable damage if not diagnosed early on.
I stumbled this, I think it is an important example for reframing.
I had no idea you had such the accent too btw! LOL
Now the voice in my head that I hear when I read your articles is going to sound completely different!
Take good care.
@ Laurie – It makes sense to me too. People with low iron need something I’ve got, what could go wrong? The son thing is tough without knowing everything but it seems like you have a sensible handle on it and you’re certainly not enabling and I think that’s important.
@ Vered – It sure is good because it pretty much always leads to something serious if left unchecked. I’m pumped about getting my fitness back! Thanks for the comment.
@ Doc Nicole – You’re right of course. In fact I think I’d rather have this and know how to deal with it, than have another round of negative tests come back. Seriously, there have been a couple of occasions where I’ve thought we may have to move back to the UK simply because of the mounting medical bills and that would be a real bummer. Not going to happen though, I’m determined!
I appreciate the input on the son. It is difficult to know where the line is with enabling. I don’t want to rescue him but I don’t want to let him get so desperate he does something stupid or final.
I have already accepted that he may end up homeless or worse. I’m not sure where his bottom is. Very far down I’m afraid. I will let him fall down there though if I need to. I can’t let him take my joy. He’s stolen enough already. It took me a while and a lot of visits to the counselor to find it again.
Keep us updated on your progress. I wish you well. :O)
Wow! It was SO great to see you there talking about one of the most important ways to live a happy life. Reframe what you don’t about your life in order to accept it and cope with it without feeling sorry for yourself or whine about it. We’ve all got “crap” in our lives, but it’s the way we look at it and deal with it that makes all the difference in how we live with it.
Thank you so much, Tim, for putting yourself out there like you did. Everyone, even doctors of the mind, need a reminder to think of what we DO have instead of what we do NOT have and to feel blessed for all that is good!
I’m sorry you got that diagnosis. You’re correct though when you say now that you know what it is you can take care of it! 45 and growing stronger and stronger you are!!! Bravo!
Doc KC
Tremendous advice.
Reframe and deal is better than bitching about crap.
Thanks for the perspective.
@ Laurie – Well I hope he proves everybody wrong and does an about turn. It can happen, I’ve seen it.
@ Dr KC – At this very moment I’m reframing a $2k bill I’ve just had for some previous tests. That sucker is proving more difficult ;-)
@ Joe – And thanks for making a comment Joe, it’s much appreciated.
Hey Tim, Love your video and you are totally right…. look at the good, be grateful it wasn’t worse and get on with your life. The more you focus on “being ill” the sicker you will feel… You know all the right stuff — you’re in shape and focus on your health and now that you have a diagnosis you can move forward and stop getting those tests! (Ugh – I had 5 years of them and was grateful when I finally got my diagnosis). Ahhh we all have the “crap” that’s for sure and I have given myself a couple “time outs” today to refocus on the goodness in my life…. Gratitude does work wonders where as worry and whining somehow does not accomplish anything except making yourself and everyone around you miserable! Thanks for the good reminder! Gratefully, Jenny
Oh crap! It was short and striking, thanks Tim! =D
@ Jennifer – Not to embarrass you, but there is no better example of how to deal with stuff like this than you! I am very grateful for everything I have and will continue to be so.
@ Robert – You’re welcome!
Tim, you sure a more than able to deal with this and the bills too.
There are a few things I do not like about the UK but there are more things I am happy about, like the National Health Services. Learning to reframe right there, thanks to you Tim.