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Life Coaching For Free Again? Kind Of

self development communityOver the last few months I have stepped up the time I spend on Facebook in an attempt to build a community of people who are interested in improving their lot on life.

It has been somewhat successful, but I suspect it’s not really changed anybody’s life for the better, and to me that is what Life Coaching and self development are all about.

I don’t view it as a failure and I fully intend to keep it going, but I also want to do something different for people who are serious about making change and not just into reading cool motivational quotes.

If the interest is there I intend to start a ‘private’ Google+ community aimed at helping people to make the changes they want to make by using public accountability and support with others who are doing the same.

This idea sprang from being in a meditation community myself and Bodhipaksa the organizer starting a 100 Day Challenge.

Members were challenged to meditate for 100 days continually in an attempt to build a habit and make meditation part of their new identity.

I like this idea of going for 100 days because as I have pointed out in the past, building a habit in the 30 days as many in the self development industry claim, is almost impossible.

This got me to thinking that there are a lot of people who cannot afford to hire me or any other Life Coach for that matter, but still want and deserve help making changes.

A Free Life Coaching Community

So what better than to build a community of like-minded individuals who can lean on one another (and me of course) for support and advice where necessary?

My plan to start with is to ask (and I do mean ask, it will not be a requirement) every person who joins make just one commitment to do something that they know will benefit their long-term growth for 100 consecutive days.

It doesn’t have to be anything too dramatic because the last thing I want is people stressing out, or even bailing out of the group because they missed a day and feel humiliated.

This is about helping one another to better things in an atmosphere of support and encouragement, not ritually humiliating or criticizing people!

In fact I won’t tolerate any criticism whatsoever.

Here are some examples of the types of commitments you could make, but really nothing that will help you is off the table.

  • Meditating for at least 10 minutes
  • Avoiding a certain type of food that you know is bad for you
  • Reading for education for 30 minutes
  • Reframing at least one negative event
  • Avoiding local news (something I implemented years ago and I’m so glad I did)
  • Writing down 3 things you’re grateful for
  • Telling yourself that you love yourself unconditionally
  • Telling your partner  you love them unconditionally
  • Avoiding water cooler pity parties
  • Not swearing (no way will I be trying that fucker!)
  • Journaling
  • Offering a genuine compliment to at least one person
  • Not laughing at people who think the Laughing Buddha is the Buddha

There would be no need to log in every day, or even every week if you don’t want. You could merely drop by when you want some support or to see how others are getting on and offer encouragement.

What You Would Need To Join

As I say, it will be a private group meaning only members can see the posts, that way people are free to be more open without fear of what they say popping up on an Internet search by some random person – it won’t!

Most people these days seem to have a Google account such as Gmail and that’s all you need (I think even a YouTube account is enough, but don’t quote me on that) to join Google+ and from there join a Google+ community.

Of course it’s free to join Google+ and the group will be entirely free too.

The challenge is only a starting point because I want to see where things take us and hopefully allow the community to dictate the direction, not me.

So would you be interested in such a thing?

If so, please leave a comment so I can get an idea if there are enough people to make it worth my while. I’m also going to ask my newsletter readers.

If you are reading this through e-mail, you can just hit reply and say ‘yes’ in the subject line. I’ll not respond, but I will tally up the answers and if I get over 50 people I shall get on it.

You don’t have to say why you’d be interested (unless you want to), I’m just looking for a rough idea of the level of interest.

Update Saturday 2nd March – The Community Is Now Live

Everything is now set up and ready to go, so if you want to join, here is the link.

40 comments to Life Coaching For Free Again? Kind Of

  • Debi

    Yes, I’d be interested. I’ve started tracking habits using the free app called Lift, and it has helped with the simple things I’m tracking there (flossing, taking vitamins), but I can see where I could benefit from more accountability on perhaps a more complex goal.

  • Chris B

    I’m not usually too much of a “joiner” but this, yeah, I think I’m interested.

  • Yes, definitely! :)

  • HUNDREDS AND THOUSANDS

    Yo, Timbo! What an amazing idea! Yet again you’re proving why you deserve your rightful place as King of Life Coaches.

    I’d love to be a part of this community. In fact I’m about to become a group leader in a very similar “listen, encourage and support” type role for The Unlost.

    I’m on Day 2 of my own daily meditation challenge, which I’m posting about on my Facebook page. Today’s thoughts – I felt like an unbalanced helicopter!

    • HUNDREDS AND THOUSANDS

      P.S. The next post sounds like it’ll be a killer! I’m getting a comfy seat and some popcorn.

    • I’m looking for a new tagline.

      I was thinking of something along the lines of “A Life Coach For People Who Wouldn’t Hire a Life Coach” – but a tad snappier.

      But maybe I have it all wrong and should go with ‘King of Life Coaches”?

      I’m sure that wouldn’t wind anybody up! ;-)

  • I like the sound of this community, Tim. I’d love to join please. It will surely motivate me and I could keep a Journal of what I do. Thanks for this!

  • Natalia

    Great idea Tim, I’d love to join, I never wanted to admit this but I’m realizing that I actually do need motivational support from other to make constructive changes in my life. It’s true that you’re a great coach and it’s equally true that I can’t afford you!
    SO YES.

  • Brilliant Idea! You can definitely count me in

  • Thanks everybody, I have had over 150 responses from my newsletter readers and some even said they wanted it ;-)

    Now I need to figure out how to set the damn thing up!

  • Right people, I have just set up the new community and here’s the link:

    https://plus.google.com/u/0/communities/117133784973111159649

    It’s a closed group as I want people to be able to talk freely and not worry about their commitment to stop sniffing barnyard animals popping up in a Google search.

    So if you want to enlist the help of many in making some changes in your life, then apply to join and I’d love to have you on board.

    PS Barnyard animal sniffers – it’s probably not really the place for you.

  • Beate-Susanne

    I would like to joyn the group :) My benefitical change is doing Grounding exercise. 10-15 min for 100 days. I have already begun doing this for two weeks, though not daily. I wish to make it a natural part of my day for as long as I live.

  • Andree

    A brilliant idea Tim, Im up for it.

  • Hi Tim excellent idea, I have been feeling very stuck lately and I will use the group as a motivator into taking action.

    Thanks Tim

  • Sudarshan

    I would love to Join… Tim is a great motivator and I would love to be a part of something amazing like this to transform me to a better version of myself :)

  • Anna

    Would love to join but after clicking “Ask to join” I just get an error saying there was a problem adding me to the group. :(

  • Kathleen Chartes

    Hello Tim,
    Fellow Life Coachers in the embryo stage…
    the woman on Hope Street Liverpool says YES!
    Looking forward to inspiring ideas, flourishing projects and cherishing our community.

  • Hey Tim,

    I’m game too. This looks fun!

  • Deborah Boettcher

    Well I can feel my anxiety rising at the thought of joining…which is a pretty clear indication that it will certainly provide an arena of growth. :P
    {thanks Tim!}

  • Ila Bonczek

    Oh yes, sounds like just what I need!

  • Gertamar

    This sounds like a great idea Tim – being part of a coaching community!

  • Susan Pope

    What if people laugh at what I choose to do? What if they think it’s stupid? What if I lapse one day and have to admit it to the group? Will I be punished? What if Tim swears at me? What if I give up halfway? What if I feel so good about myself after the first day that I manage a whole week? What if the thing I choose really does change my life? What if this actually works? What if I get such a boost from this that I truly believe that I can do anything I set my mind to? (But what if people laugh at what I choose to do?)

    • If anybody laughs at you I’ll ban them, it’s as simple as that.

      This community will be about support and mutual respect and one persons stupid idea is anothers flash of genius.

  • Martin

    Hi Tim
    Sounds great, count me in.

  • Cynthia

    I would love to join.

  • The group seems like a great idea for those who can’t afford a personal coach, as well as for those who can and want to learn more about you and how you work in a group atmosphere. I am curious to know if you got your community sett up , nad what the name of the community is so that I can check it out on G +.

  • Hello Tim! Your idea is just an amazing and really appreciate that you brought it up here! I’m a wanna-be-coach and just started two months ago. My plan is to establish business here in Singapore(since company tax for new business is so cheap in Singapore. #businessfriendlycounty). I’ll do my best to complete.

    While I was thinking about “hmmm…..what kind of commitment I should decide…..”, I found that it’s even harder to decide one commitments than “some commitments”. I can think of MANY COMMITMENTS that i want to devote for 100 days…but can’t make it into one. I’ll decide this within today! And will join your community.

    See you there!

    Asuka

    • You can add commitments as you move along rather than overwhelm yourself with 100! Habits are built up by constant repetition and the fewer things we have to do that with at once the easier it is Asuka.