It’s Ok To Feel Down

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A week or so ago I was on some training although at the time my mind was somewhat elsewhere. I was waiting to hear the result of a soccer game back in the UK that the team I have supported since I was a young boy, Derby County, were playing in.

Derby were one of the top teams in Europe in the 1970’s but since those heady days have slipped and played as much out of the top flight as in it. This year they have been fighting to get back into the Premiership by finishing either top or second and for most of the last 3 months have been occupying one of those positions. The season was coming to a climax and Derby needed to win in south London against Crystal Palace to take it to the last game. They lost 2-0 and quite frankly it sounds like they never even turned up.

I think it is fair to say I was distraught. Not suicidal exactly but nevertheless not too happy with life.

I explained to the class what had happened and the significance to me. Then somebody said to me  ‘You’re an NLP Master Practitioner, change your state’

I looked at her and replied ‘I don’t want to ******* change my state, I like this state thank you very much’

I must say that I replied with a smile on my face but there was a serious message behind what I was saying.

Sometimes it is ok to feel down or sad on any other ‘negative’ emotion you care to mention, it is a normal human response to all sorts of different stimuli that happen to us from time to time. What isn’t healthy though, is when you let that feeling persist. I wanted to feel miserable and sorry for myself for 10 or 15 minutes so I did. I could have let it drag on and ruined my day but what would that have achieved?

So if you have something in your life that makes you feel really down, that’s ok. Simply block out time later on in the day when you can be alone and explore your feelings. Be miserable, be unhappy, cry if it makes you feel better but remember at the end of the time you have allotted yourself to leave all those negative emotions behind, at least until the next time they are needed.

Note: This post does not constitute medical advice. If you believe that you may be suffering from a medical condition such as depression, bi-polar disorder, schizophrenia etc please seek appropriate medical help.