Calling a post 20 of the greatest self development posts ever written is ambitious to say the least and probably a bit silly.
Especially as I just did a recount and realized there are 21!
I know I’ll have missed out dozens of classic posts that deserved recognition, so please don’t take this list as anything more than a bit of fun and as an introduction to some great self development writers.
As a heads up, I read every link that was left in the comments (I think). A couple of posts I just didn’t think quite fit what I was looking for, but the majority were great.
I then contacted each author (where I could find contact details) and asked them for either a short intro or permission to pull the first paragraph from the post as the introduction.
If you think I missed out a brilliant post that you nominated and can’t understand why, it’s probably because the person who wrote it either didn’t respond to my e-mail or I couldn’t find any contact details.
If somebody can’t be arsed to respond to an e-mail request with a simple “Yes that’s fine Tim of course you can link to me”, then I can’t be arsed to send them some new readers.
The order is completely random and I have made no attempt to rank them or declare a winner.
I hope you have fun exploring this stuff and I’d love to hear what you think in the comments.
Bodhipaksa – Learning To Love The Flaws
This one’s about how we can quickly move beyond annoyance, irritation, or even hatred toward someone just by learning to appreciate the person as a work in progress, rather than as a static “being.” It was something that came to me spontaneously in my meditation practice, and sometimes when techniques come to me that way they’re particularly effective.
Liz Strauss – The Top 10 Ways To Start Living
We don’t measure life in hours and minutes. We measure life in memories and moments. What do you think of when you read this sentence? It was the time of my life. We don’t say that often enough.
Alex Blackwell – How To Love Consciously
With more than 27 years of marriage under our belts, my wife and I have found what works best is to love intentionally; to love authentically and to love consciously. Yes, we argue over the temperature in the car or who really forgot to feed the dog, but when it really matters; when it really counts, we make the conscious choice to give each other the love that is requested and needed.
Brooke Castillo – That Was Meant To Happen
This is my mantra. I think I picked it up when I started studying Byron Katie’s work.One day, I just noticed how often I say this in my head. How brilliantly it sets me free. Every time. It releases me from my argument with the past. That argument I have never (not once) won.
Tony Teegarden – How To Improve The Quality of Your Life In 15 Minutes
Over the past few months I’ve been tracking how many 20 min segments daily of exercise and writing I do. The key for me is the small time chunk–makes it manageable in my mind. So I consciously set boundaries, set my timer to work/exercise/be with kids for 15-20 minute helped manage the overwhelm, and reacquainted myself with my juicer.
Tim Brownson – A Walk On The Beach
My ego refused to allow me to write this post unless I included one of my own musings. This is a story of a vacation I took a few years ago. So many people asked me if it was true and each time I answered, it may be.
Sabrina Ali – On The Matter of Death + The Possibility of Birth (like now)
Treating life as ‘suspiciously deathly’ inhibits the possibility of living it meaningfully and purposefully. So, let’s get on with it shall we? Following your bliss in life will indeed cause the death of many things, but only for the purpose of living truly free.
Charlie Gilkey – So Much More Than Damaged Goods
“So Much More Than Damaged Goods” is about seeing that we are more than just damaged goods. It’s an encouragement to use our experience and write a different story of transcendence and compassion. Whether our story is of damage or transcendence is largely up to us.
Sandi Amorim – 5 Steps To Managing Your Lizard Brain
Death is the most abrupt wake-up call there is, displacing everything with its trail of regrets. What if you could give up your deathbed regrets now, and live a life you love? You can by taking small actions over time; actions that fly under the radar of your lizard brain and get you moving on what’s important. Crushing your someday thinking isn’t as dramatic as it sounds.
Jonathan Fields – Everything Else Is Icing
Do you get nervous giving presentations? Well this post may help remind you that there are more important things in life.
Vidya Sury – Time To Smell The Flowers
This is a three part post about – yes – you guessed it – taking time to smell the flowers in today’s hectic lifestyle and finding the time to do things that matter to us. It is also about the importance of slowing down, prioritizing and getting our acts together. Unless we practice being present in what we do, how can life be meaningful?
Arvind Devalla – How To Live Your Life As Though Everything Is A Miracle
“What would it be like to imagine living your life as if everything was a miracle? Well, no matter what’s going on for you in your life right now, everything is a miracle. This article will show you how you can notice and fully appreciate the miracles happening all around you.
Jonathan Mead – Meaningless Dreams
I actually had a different post nominated for Jonathan, but then he tweeted this older post and when I read it I loved it. It’s very simple, but sometimes it’s ok to have meaningless and selfish dreams.
Paige Burkes – Eliminate Fear and Negative Emotions
Learn the simple steps that are always available to you to eliminate fears and negative emotions as they arise.
Brandon Allen – I’m Writing This Post While Watching TV
Switch tasking and trying to be all things to all people, all of the time are killing our ability to focus on our careers as well as killing precious time with our families. Being present in the moment is a key to living a longer, less stressful life.
Nea Joy Justice – 20 Ego Defense Mechanisms That Can Screw Up Your Life
Nea describes the way we unconsciously use defense mechanisms like deflection, rationalization and denial to deal; albeit ineffectively, with aspects of life that are less than ideal. Once you understand these defense mechanisms, it’s easy to see the importance of increasing self-awareness and learning positive coping skills.
Barrie Davenport – 50 Things To Stop Doing Forever
This post evolved from pinpointing some of the most common areas when people get stuck and hopefully reach the “ah ha” awareness. These are the places that are bound to keep us stifled if we don’t address them.
Ken Wert – What’s On The Dashboard of Your Life
If you’re a blogger, you know a dashboard is more than the place you instinctively glance to check your speed when you pass a police car. It’s where much of the behind-the-scenes work of a blog happens. But many of the same characteristics you can find on a site’s dashboard can also be found in our own lives as well.
Tess Marshall – A Gift In Goodbye: A Legacy of Love
During one of our last phone conversations mom told me, “I’m dying. I’m ready to go.” The pain of living had become unbearable. As if driven by an invisible force, I was determined to be there for her, as she had always been for me. I packed my suitcase, hopped on a plane and arrived within 24 hours.
Danielle LaPorte – The Grand Pep Talk
I’m all for mental health days. And gentleness. And I think the world should take the month of December off. And for the love of God, a 4 day work week would revolutionize the collective human spirit and thusly, healthcare. But this pep talk isn’t about taking it easy, this is about another form of self care: doing whatever it takes.
Zeenat – How To Lovingly Support Someone Who Is Experiencing Hopelessness and Depression
If you have a friend or loved one who is experiencing hopelessness or depression, it can be difficult to know exactly what to say or do. While there isn’t any one magic thing to say that will alleviate their pain, there are many ways to offer support.
So come on then, what do you think? Let me know in the comments.
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In other words, I’ve already put the price up without the promised final announcement.
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