I’m not entirely sure if it’s illegal to have a Pinterest account and not post random motivational quotes from time to time, but I suspect it is by the sheer amount of people doing it.
And that’s very cool because who doesn’t love a great motivational quote or two? I know I do and I too am ‘guilty’ of posting and sharing the good ones I stumble upon.
The problem is though that some people are so eager to demonstrate their insight and understanding they forget to actually use any insight or try to understand what the person quoted really meant.
The result is they post quotes that would have not only been better not posted, but probably better not even thought of in the first place.
Of course this is all my personal opinion and you may actually like one or more of the following quotes – and that’s cool because I guess if it motivates you to take action then it has achieved the desired result.
I think they suck though and as with my worst quotes on Pinterest post I shall explain why.
Actually the effort isn’t the same at all and this is one of those self development urban myths that refuses to die the horrible death it deserves.
For a great many people tapping into their negative side is a lot easier than pushing through and being strong in the face of adversity.
We are hard wired to be aware of danger a lot more than reward. As such that makes us more aware of danger/risk and much more likely to give in to it.
If you have a pattern of thinking negatively then that will always be easier for you to continue that because you can do it at an unconscious level whereas thinking positively will require conscious intervention.
Conscious intervention is very tiring and requires a lot more work which is why people slip back into negative patterns of behavior so easily.
2. The Voices Inside My Head Hate Me
I guess some people have a tendency to think writing great pop songs and performing to a high level equals having some deeper insight than ‘normal’ people into the human psyche.
Pink beautifully smashes this illusion for anybody prepared to think it through
The voices in your head don’t dislike you, they are you.
When they do attack you they are adopting a strategy that they think will get you to change. It seldom works and neither does fighting with them.
Observe the negative voices, thank them for their input (because remember, they are trying their best) and replace with something more supportive.
Caveat: Pink may have been alluding to the fact she hates herself (I really don’t know) and if so it makes slightly more sense.
But if that is the case then she didn’t really think through the effect it may have on her legion of followers who will take her literally and may then start to hate their own voices.
3. You’re A Magnet
If you’re a believer in the law of attraction you may want to avert your eyes to my imminent rant and open letter to Brian.
Of course we are all magnets and how foolish of me (and the entire scientific community) not to have noticed before.
Most women were undoubtedly thinking about being raped just before it happened.
The workers at Enron were concentrating on losing their pensions and all those people in SE Asia were sat there attracting a tsunami.
I’m not even going to mention the 6 million Jews Hitler was responsible for, or the 20 million people Stalin wiped out because all were no doubt attracting their own fate.
PS You’re a fucking idiot.
4. Come On Just Smile….It’s Easy
Just smile, it’s so easy!
Ok, so I may be being a bit tough because there is plenty or research suggesting that by smiling even when we don’t feel great we can improve our happiness levels.
However, there are times when it’s ok not to smile or when smiling is simply not appropriate.
I dislike this quote more because it guilts people into thinking there’s something wrong with them if they can’t wear a perpetual smile like they are off to audition for the role of The Joker in a new Batman movie.
I’m a Life Coach and there are moments in my day when I’m not grinning like an idiot – and I’m relaxed about that.
5. Is He Really Bashing The Great Henry David Thoreau?
Yes Thoreau was a genius, an inspiration and a thought leader for his generation in the truest sense of the phrase, but boy did he fuck this one up!
This is awful for 2 reasons.
1) A great many people imagine and fear a crap life lies in store for them, so its not wise to create that self fulfilling prophesy Henry mate.
2) Times are very different & far more complex than they were in Thoreau’s day.
People didn’t have huge mortgages, student debt and access to an Internet with infinite possibilities.
The counter to this quote is by Jim Carrey of all people:
“I wish everyone could experience being rich and famous, so they’d see it wasn’t the answer to anything”
Thanks to Peter Clemons from The Change Blog for pointing out that this quote is actually is a snippet and the full quote is:
“Let go of the past and go for the future. Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you imagined.”
Mr Thoreau can now stop spinning in his grave at my eagerness to bash him, I’m suitably humbled!
6. Negative People Will Ruin Your Life – It’s Official!
However, I have known people who are surrounded by negativity and refuse to buckle to it.
Victor Frankl didn’t have much positivity surrounding him in Nazi concentration camps, but he kinda did ok.
Also, if it were true that would be a bummer for therapists (and even some Life Coaches) who are exposed to negativity on a daily basis.
7. How To Have A Lovely Day
But seriously is wearing perfume or dressing nicely a prerequisite of having a lovely day?
If it is I’m screwed because I only ever wear perfume and my little black dress on weekends.
Can woman who wear shorts and a cut off t-shirt with no perfume not have nice days?
Can women who aren’t allowed to wear perfume in the work place not have lovely days?
Is every women or person on the planet who can not afford nice clothes doomed to a life of misery?
It’s too much playing to stereotypes for my liking and reinforcing the myth that women need to look and smell nice to be happy.
N O T H E Y D O N T – E V E R!
8. Giving Yourself A Good Kicking Is The Answer
Possibly the single hardest thing I have to do with clients is to get them to go easy on themselves.
You have made many mistakes and been the architect of many screw ups in your life – we all have!
Beating yourself up for shit that happened weeks, months, years and even decades ago doesn’t help.
I agree with the underlying theme of taking responsibility for your life, but do it with kindness and compassion for yourself.
By the way, how on earth did somebody look at Roosevelt and decide to name the Teddy Bear after him? He doesn’t look much like Teddy Bear to me.
9. Some People Just Can’t Love
It can only ever be their decision and it should happen naturally by you being your authentic self, not by trying to earn it by modifying your behavior.
The end however is truly horrible.
Who are we to judge whether people are capable of loving?
This side of people with psychiatric or neurological disorders I prefer to believe everybody is capable of love, but then again I’m just a big old softy.
10. Is There Really?
The pragmatist in me thinks this quote is total and utter bollocks.
I get the idea that many people give up on their hopes and dreams too easily when maybe they shouldn’t.
In such cases thinking there is a way and stepping outside the box can be very useful and productive.
Having said that, quitting is sometimes the most sensible option in certain situations.
An abusive marriage, a failing business that’s sucking the life out of you and your dream to represent the US in gymnastics at the next Olympics when you’re over the age of 35 don’t benefit from you thinking there’s always a way.
I’d love your thoughts in the comments and please feel free to disagree heartily with me!
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