Your Life Sucks Because You Suck

Now there is a title that should grab your attention. Understand first that this post is not meant to offend you. I assume that if you have been reading Tim’s blog for any length of time, you are used to being challenged. That is exactly my intention today.

This post is not meant to be a written “beat down” either. In fact, when it is all said and done, I want you to feel empowered to take control of your life and the results you get out of it; I’m just not going to stroke any egos along the way.

So what exactly am I talking about here? I’m talking about responsibility and accountability.

100% Responsibility

I believe it is time for people to start taking 100% responsibility for the results they produce in life. That is not a typo. I absolutely mean 100% responsibility.

Wherever you are in life today, you are there as a result of your thoughts, actions, and decisions.

Are you having a bad day? Your fault.

Work sucks? Your fault.

Relationship sucks? Your fault.

Get the picture? It isn’t the car, the job, the boss, it’s you baby.

Do you not like your job? Get a new one. Don’t like your level of health and fitness? Fix it. Not getting along with your spouse or significant other? Make some changes, make it work, or get out of the relationship.

But I didn’t ask for…

Inevitably, when I share my perspective on this subject, someone says, “But I didn’t ask for (fill in the blank).” They fill in that blank with things like cancer, natural disasters, or any other number of things that are outside their sphere of control.

For the sake of argument, we will ignore the fact that an estimated 80% of cancer is lifestyle related so that we can move on.

All right, something crazy and out of the blue came and smacked you across the face? Great, what did you do about it? Did you lie down and cry, “Why me?” Or did you stand up and scream back, “Fuck you cancer, you aren’t beating me!”

You see, you can’t control those types of things for the most part. What you can control is the reaction you have when those things come around.

A Run Across Canada

Perhaps you’ve heard the story of a young man named Terry Fox. Terry was by all rights a normal active youth. He played basketball in high school and college, and was an avid distance runner. Everyone like him.

When he was 19 years old, a pain in his knee started to bother him during basketball practice. He hid the pain from his coach, and thought it was related to an earlier car accident in which he was involved. It wasn’t.

Fox was diagnosed with osteosarcoma, a form of bone cancer. After extensive chemotherapy, it was determined that the only way to save his life was to amputate his right leg. Athletic career gone, just like that.

The only problem with that was, no one bothered to tell Terry Fox he would not be able to have an athletic career. In August of 1979, with the help of an artificial leg, Fox competed in a marathon and finished dead last. His time was a full 10 minutes longer than that of his next closest competitor. Everyone who witnessed the finish applauded, and there wasn’t a dry eye in the house.

Fox though, wasn’t done. He revealed to his family his plan to run across Canada, and raise money for cancer research. Initially, his goal was $1 million, which he later revised to $24 million, representing $1 for every one of Canada’s population at the time.

Fox never finished the “Marathon Of Hope” across Canada. The cancer spread to his lungs, and he was forced to end the run just outside of Thunder Bay. By that time, he had raised $1.7 million.

He died a few months later. To date, over $500 million has been raised for cancer research in his name.

There Are No Problems, Only Opportunities

Fox didn’t see a problem with losing his leg, he saw an opportunity to help others.

I don’t know about you, but my problems pale in comparison to losing a leg to cancer. Maybe yours do not, but I can tell you this, what you do with those problems is what matters. Do you see an opportunity in disguise?

When I take stock of my life, I feel pretty damn good knowing that I have control over one incredible thing…

My attitude.

You have that same control. You can make a choice today that no matter what has happened up until this point, you are not going to let that dictate your future. You can start taking 100% responsibility right now, and feel the incredible power that comes along with it.

I will leave you with this a truth: You cannot fix the problems in your life with the same mindset that created them. Change your mind, change your life.

Bio: Joshua Noerr is a former competitive fighter turned blogger. He owns or is partnered in several blogs on different subjects including personal development, and fly fishing.

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This post struck a chord with me. I still remember a client walking out on me when I told him his life was 100% his responsibility and he disagreed citing outside influences. What’s your take, do you think your life is 100% down to you or not?