I had a couple of people contact me this week asking me to retweet their tweets on the situation in Haiti. They had written articles about how to help and were keen to get as much traffic to them as possible.
I did as asked for those people and a few others I saw on Twitter with similar ideas. I also grabbed the 12kfor12k ribbon to add to my avatar to demonstrate my support and then sat back and congratulated myself on how much good in the world I’d done and what a wonderful almost angelic being I was.
Yesterday afternoon I was in Starbucks and they were collecting for the emergency Haiti fund. All of a sudden it dawned on me as I read the notice. I’d given absolutely NOTHING other than a few moments of my time. Holy shit, that wasn’t very good, was it?
I don’t rate guilt as an emotion, it has few if any redeeming features. That didn’t seem to stop me from feeling overwhelmed with guilt for a few moments though as I stood in line pondering my inaction and determined to rectify it.
I then started to wonder, are people signing petitions on Facebook, retweeting posts on Twitter and posting on their own blog as a way contributing without actually contributing?
I have no idea what the answer to that is, but I do think with social media, people all of a sudden have an excellent way out of giving the one thing that is always needed in such situations – money. Maybe the new saying for this decade will shift from “I gave at the office to “I’ve already tweeted it” I’d love to hear your take.
What is Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)
Have you ever been stuck in traffic and looked over at the car beside you only to see the driver madly tapping around their eyes, nose and mouth? If so, then you’ve seen EFT in action. EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques (yes there’s an ‘s’) is also known as Tapping, or Meridian Tapping (or that weird tapping thing) and is a simple, portable self help tool based on the principles of acupuncture.
Imagine a single self-applied technique that can be used to reduce road rage, eliminate the fear of public speaking, or lessen the pain associated with fibromyalgia and headaches. It sounds outlandish but EFT addresses all of these issues at their energetic roots.
EFT taps into the energy meridians along which Qi or energy flows. For centuries practitioners of Traditional Chinese Medicine have used needles to engage the energy meridians in order to dissolve blocked energy and provide physical relief from illness and disease. While 5000 years of TCM can’t be wrong, EFT has launched from there.
With EFT you use your fingertips instead of needles, and tap on a series of specific acupuncture points that gives you access to the energy of the meridians in your body.
As you tap on these acupuncture points you are systematically balancing the disruption in all of your meridians.
The beauty of EFT is that it enables you to make a distinct mind body connection. A vital component of EFT is that you focus your thoughts on the issue that is bothering you while you tap on the acupuncture points. A means for focusing your thoughts is built in to the EFT procedure.
While tapping on specific acupuncture points on your body, you focus your mind by repeating an affirmation that acknowledges the problem, pain, or issue. Here are some examples:
Even though I have (this problem), I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I feel this pain in my left knee, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I am so angry at my neighbor right now, I deeply and completely accept myself.
So essentially what you are doing is acknowledging that there is something bothering you … but you accept yourself anyway. This combination of tapping while talking about the problem and adding the positive affirmation consistently eases the upset, pain and disruption.
EFT developer, Gary Craig designed EFT to be a self healing tool that is simple for anybody to use in its basic form. While it was initially created to enhance the psychotherapy process, EFT users quickly reported beneficial side effects.
In the early days of EFT, Gary Craig worked with hospitalized Veterans over a period of several days, teaching them the process of EFT and working with them on intrusive thoughts about traumatic war memories and other symptoms of PTSD.
Not only did the Veterans report a reduction in the number of nightmares and intrusive memories but many also reported having less physical pain and many of them were also sleeping better.
We really don’t know exactly how EFT works, but the consistent successes are far too coincidental to abandon its use. Hundreds of thousands of people all over the world have found their way to the EFT website and at the beginning of 2010 there are nearly half a million subscribers to the EFT newsletter. More than a million people have downloaded the free EFT Manual .
Many people begin by tapping on their own issues while reading the manual. There are countless cases of people reporting “One Minute Miracles” where a few minutes of EFT tapping has eased longstanding pain, anxiety, fear or phobia – even depression.
Many people also report that consistent and persistent daily tapping eased their physical symptoms or emotional pain over a period of months or years. While people of all ages easily perform EFT on themselves, sometimes the expertise of an EFT practitioner is beneficial.
An important point about EFT is that no matter what the issue being addressed, the exact same protocol of tapping and verbalizing is performed.
What differs is the individual and the issue they are addressing, and their thoughts, feelings, beliefs, past traumas and memories associated with their issue. For some people, each of these aspects will require some tapping before the issue is resolved. Herein lies the need for persistence with doing EFT on a regular basis.
Now this is basic EFT we’re talking about. And in its basic form, EFT is hugely effective. As you get past the basics, you can really play with EFT for even deeper healing. Play and healing are rarely found in the same sentence! Play with the issue you want to clear and let your imagination participate.
Think about this body pain you’ve had for years … just focus your attention on it for a moment. NOW quickly think of a person. And nobody’s face or name may spring to mind but in most cases someone will. So for the sake of playing with EFT, we’re making an association between your pain and that person. Here’s what your tapping phrases might look like:
Even though I have this pain in my neck, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I’ve associated Jimmy with this pain in my neck, I accept myself.
Even though Jimmy is a pain in my neck, I accept me and Jimmy.
You might wind up also having to do some tapping on the problem with Jimmy, but your neck pain is probably better.
I’ve seen some amazing stuff happen with EFT. For me, I have permanently alleviated many of my own allergies; I have corrected my vision and used EFT as first aid for falls, burns and stings – to name a few things. And I’ve eliminated my own writer’s block and become a published author… oh and I’ve had countless hours of fearless dental work done.
In my ten years of private practice, and whether it’s in person or on the phone, I’ve seen profound shifts in about 90 percent of my cases. I love the fact that my creative clients – actors, performers, writers and musicians – have abolished stage fright and writer’s block and gone on to live their dream lives in their chosen creative careers.
I’ve also worked with many clients with chronic pain – whether from fibromyalgia, cancer or frozen shoulder – and when we’re finished, they have less pain. I’ve seen frozen shoulder thaw before my eyes. Part of the key with using EFT for physical pain is to acknowledge the mind/body connection and address any underlying emotional issues that are linked to the pain.
When I ask a client who has fibromyalgia how she feels about the pain in her fibro spots, she has definite feelings about it. It might be anger, sadness, grief or fear … but in my experience, I’ve have very few people who couldn’t identify (and therefore clear) the emotion associated with the pain.
When the emotion (or trauma) associated with the pain is cleared, EFT users feel emotional relief as well as physical relief. Often the results are permanent and other than shedding tears while tapping on the emotional stuff – there are no side effects (in my experience).
I reiterate that we don’t know quite why this tapping technique works, but it does. It works consistently and in most cases the results are permanent
I mentioned earlier that the EFT Manual (79 pages) is a freely available download on the EFT website . However, EFT founder, Gary Craig, has announced his retirement as of the first of March 2010 and after that date the EFT Manual will no longer be available. Even if you think this is a lot of hooey, get the free Manual anyway.
Christine Wheeler, MA, is one of the few Certified EFT Practitioners in the world and works with people by phone or in person in Vancouver BC Canada. She’s also a freelance writer, editor and ghostwriter and co-author of IBS for Dummies and IBS Cookbook for Dummies. An expert in using EFT to eliminate the number one fear in North America – public speaking – Christine co-developed a successful audio program to help listeners combat that debilitating fear. www.TappingVancouver.com. You can also find her on Twitter