Julies last blog post..This is the Day!

Enjoyed your video (even though you put Miss Cutie-Pie back on the floor!) and your message. I enjoyed the “forgiveness” exchange, too, so I’ll be back for another visit. Thanks! ~ Julie

PS: Hi Dave!

Julies last blog post..This is the Day!

Ah, yes. I get your point now. If it’s possible for others, it’s possible for me. I’ve just got to find the way.

I don’t know whether you’ll believe this, but this little exchange has moved me closer to resolving the problem, because it caused me to seek out the underlying issue. I think I know what that is now, so I can start to deal with it.

I’ve actually let myself off the hook for failing to deal with the issues, which have then turned into grudges – but only because I’ve promised myself that I’m not going to let such issues go unresolved in the future. I made some mistakes in the past but I shouldn’t let that fact hold my future hostage.

50% off you say?

That’s my kind of bargain!

Cheers Tim.

Don’t get annoyed with yourself, learn from the past and move forward whilst slowing down only to go and buy my highly informative and value for money book now selling at 50% discount ;-)

Right, I’m off for a nap. Night all.

Let’s be honest, you fell asleep three times because the first half of your workday is spent in bed…

…I know all about you work from home types!

I’m surprised to hear that I’m in the minority. I honestly believed that most people hold grudges of some kind.

I was hoping that holding grudges was linked to some kind of throwback ‘Danger Response’ designed to help us make sure we eradicated our enemy.

Darn it! So what you’re saying is that I can’t blame anyone or anything else?

Bamboo Forest, Laurie and Rita all make great points.

At the moment I feel the same way as Bamboo Forest regarding the significance of forgiveness. I’d be saying his behaviour was OK.

I do like Laurie’s definition of forgiveness but my only sticking point is I’m not sure I could let go of the need for retaliation.

The lady that Laurie speaks of has a capability I can’t even begin to comprehend. I don’t think I could do what she did.

Rita makes a point I understand very well. I suspect a lot of people feel the same way about their children.

I’m beginning to feel that the problem (my problem) comes from being unable to deal with these unresolved issues. I need to resolve them.

Perhaps the person I’m most annoyed with, is myself – for not having dealt with the problem at the time?

This has been a good exchange. I’ve really enjoyed it.

Tim, you make me laugh (in a good way).

You can hit snooze again now.

I don’t think they serve any purpose other than to make us feel bad. The reality is that the other person is oblivious when you are sat plotting your revenge. They aren’t feeling bad, but you may be.

When we hold grudges we give our personal power away, we allow the other person to have control over us, which is just the opposite of what we really want. Weird huh? And don’t worry, I only nodded off 3 times reading your comment.

@ Bamboo Forest, Laurie and Rita – I think I may write a post on this because it is a complicated subject and open to interpretation.

I lean more towards Laurie’s way of looking at things but I also agree with BF that people shouldn’t HAVE to forgive. Nobody has to do anything in my book and that goes for feeling like they HAVE to hold a grudge too, Ask yourself these 2 questions: What is the wisest course of action for our own long-term good? What would people you aspire to be like do?

@ Kelly – Absolutely, we ALWAYS have choices and btw, I’m skulking rather nicely as I type.