Comments on: The Real Key To Self Development

By: self development courses

self development courses — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 18:14:22 +0000

Love the tip about being kind to yourself. Someone once told me that you should treat yourself as you would treat your best friend.

By: Guy Farmer

Guy Farmer — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 06:51:31 +0000

I agree with the idea of being kind to oneself as a key to self development. I would add an additional layer that seems to help people get to the point where they are kind to themselves: self awareness. When people build up self-awareness they begin to understand how to move beyond the past and gain the confidence to interrupt the behaviors that have held them back. The more awareness people gain the more comfortable they are in their own skin and less likely to create havoc in their own and others' lives. Self-awareness opens the door to healing. It is this healing that positions the person to be able to like themselves. As they let go of the traumas and obstacles of the past they create new opportunities for development. Take care, Guy Guy Farmers last blog post..Heal the Past to Move Forward

By: Pulley bearings

Pulley bearings — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 02:51:28 +0000

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By: The Key to Personal Development. Belief? | Learn This

The Key to Personal Development. Belief? | Learn This — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 12:17:41 +0000

[...] couple weeks ago I read an interesting article by Tim at A Daring Adventure about what the key to self development is and I felt a longer response was needed to explain my perspective [...]

By: Tim Brownson

Tim Brownson — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 11:05:58 +0000

@ Mike – Yeh I’m with Melinda, I can’t agree with that at all bud.

Beliefs can be changed fairly easily. I have had clients come to me almost under duress with virtually no belief their life could change. Now, to be fair I suppose there must be a tiny element about belief, but I think that is present in everybody, so it’s a moot point. I do get where you’re coming from though.

@ Melinda – Who should we gang up on next? ;-)

By: Melinda

Melinda — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 03:46:16 +0000

I disagree with you on that Mike, and I’ll be very interested to hear Tim’s reply to you as well.

IMO often the action comes before the belief. We get clients taking action that support a particular belief, and the belief grows from that. Acting ‘as if’ a certain thing were true, and in the doing actually creating the belief and making it BE true.

Sometimes clients will be nice to themselves simply because the Coach has challenged them to do that. And from that they can realise that they do deserve it – and in comes the belief.

I realise this is not the case always, however in my experience it has been the way it works nine times out of ten.

Gross generalisation – if the client already had the belief then they wouldn’t be coming to a Coach for help with it.

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By: Mike King

Mike King — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 03:26:17 +0000

I like this topic and article very much. However, I think it depends at what level you look at things. I personally put the key to self development to be belief. That is necessary even before you can be kind to yourself, you must belief it is worthwhile and you are worthwhile. Belief is before all the actions of self development as well, regardless of where you are at with the self confidence scale. Mike Kings last blog post..The Imaginative Mind: Mental Creativity