Comments on: How To Avoid a Mid (or quarter) Life Crisis

By: casper

casper — Mon, 18 May 2009 01:50:46 +0000

Faith in God and religion can be helpful too. Christians are usually happier because they are always busy to praise the Lord and less think about their own problems.

By: Patience

Patience — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 06:58:26 +0000

I am 26 and going through a QLC. I just quit my job cos i hated it. What worries me even more is when i think of the future yrs ahead I can see that i will have some sort of “life crisis” at every major point in my life eg. after getting married (30’s), kids grown up (40’s), mid life (50’s), retirement age (60’s, nursing home age (70’s) then i’ll be dead.

What if i will always be asking “where is this all going?? what is the point?? is this as good as it gets?? have my best yrs already passed me by??”

Patiences last blog post..It all comes crashing down

By: Urban Panther

Urban Panther — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 17:09:57 +0000

@Tim – ah, and this would be why I am going to work my way through through your book and associated worksheets.

By: Tim Brownson

Tim Brownson — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 16:40:37 +0000

@ Urban Panther – Reeeealy, you hate your job? Well get another one then.

@ Becky – Glad you enjoyed it! I haven’t seen the movie, but I’m going to check out the link and thanks for posting it.

By: Becky

Becky — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 15:30:47 +0000

Really fun article. Thank you. I recently saw the follow up to The Secret, the film The Opus. And I felt that they had some really good thoughts about lifes purpose and although they did not directly refer to mid-life I thought what they had to say about finding purpose and leaving a legacy was really powerful and applicable to the topic at hand. Have you seen the movie and what were your thoughts? Here’s the website http://www.TheOpusMovie.com

By: Urban Panther

Urban Panther — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 11:50:08 +0000

I hate my job…I’d write more, but this week I can only write zippy onliners, as per your challenge..so will have to expand on this at a later date…when I don’t need to cheat with run on sentences.

By: Tim Brownson

Tim Brownson — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 14:37:18 +0000

@ Becca – Sure it is! I get more women coming to me with QLC’s and more men with MLC’s. Make of that what you will. I think that the one thing that links all of the people together is a sense of self doubt. There’s no real science around this, not that I’m aware of of anyway.

By: Becca

Becca — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 00:06:02 +0000

About this QLC, does this only apply to men? Can a woman with 5 children under nine have one? That was where I was when my husband started trying to have his QLC. I definitely wanted a vacation for myself at that point (and for many years afterward as well)! I’m having a hard time rationalizing this, let alone visualizing how it could be possible.

By: Tim Brownson

Tim Brownson — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 18:48:05 +0000

@ Robert – Sorry buddy I have no idea how, but I completely missed this comment! Best of luck with your QLC although I suspect there’s no crisis in your life.

@ Becca – That is an excellent point about other cultures, thanks for making it. I know when I talk to people about body language I always stress that there are cultural differences that need to be taken into consideration and this is no different.

That’s really funny about your husband. It seems like he almost managed to get merge his quarter and mid life crisis! That’s no mean achievement ;-)

By: Becca

Becca — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 01:20:28 +0000

It’s interesting that many other cultures do not have a “midlife crisis”. It’s a function of our western mindset, and now we’ve even conditioned ourselves to expect it. In my husband’s case, he stated telling me he was having a midlife crisis in his thirties! I finally told him, “If you must have a midlife crisis now, make sure you have a really good one, because you’re only allowed to have one!” He reconsidered. Twenty years later, he finally had his crisis and bought his motorcycle, and changed jobs and homes, but not me, thank goodness!

Becky