Be Your Own Life Coach - Part 2

So here we go with part 2

Write it down– Whether it is goals or simply ideas you have on trying to improve your life put them on paper. The sheer act of writing something down sends a message to the unconscious mind that you are serious about what you are doing that it need to get to work on bridging the gap between where you are now and where you want to go.

Every action has a positive intention - This is another NLP presupposition. Even when we do what sometimes seem like ridiculous things there is always a positive intent behind it. It may take some digging to get to it but it is there. Taking smoking as an example. It can seem self-destructive and often smokers that want to quit will refuse to see the benefits, but they are there. By accepting that your actions are not there to harm you (even self-harm fits into this category) then you can look for alternative ways to get whatever it is you want.

Model – If you are unsure how to do something copy somebody that is proficient. This is how children learn to speak and it is how we get good at something quickly. NLP was based on modeling when Richard Bandler and John Grinder wanted to know how Fritz Perls, Virginia Satir and Milton Erickson got such outstanding results in therapy. So, they modeled them and hey presto! They got good at it too.

Relish making mistakes – Mistakes are feedback, they are nature’s way of telling us we need to adjust to take stock and reconsider. They do not mean we are failure as a person just that we failed at a task.
Don’t beat yourself up – This is so important to get a handle on. There really is no need EVER to beat yourself up, be kind to yourself like you would a loved one. We all make mistakes, even the super successful make mistakes, try and learn from them and move on. Too many people seem to be great at beating themselves up and terrible at praising themselves. Give yourself some credit from time to time, you deserve it!

Coaching yourself is no substitute for hiring an experienced proficient coach but it is certainly better than doing nothing. There are some excellent books out there on self-development and for some fabulous examples look no further than:

 http://www.adaringadventure.com/books-Nightingale-coaching.html

The very best of luck.

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