Comments on: Little Scary Things (With Nasty Big Pointy Teeth)

By: catalog printing

catalog printing — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 03:42:13 +0000

I am just new to your blog and just spent about 1 hour and 30 minutes lurking and reading. I think I will frequent your blog from now on after going through some of your posts. I will definitely learn a lot from them.
Regards – Gerry

By: Paragliding

Paragliding — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 17:19:06 +0000

Starting a new business is scary but once you get the hang of it the best things in life started off as being scary

By: Detox Diet Recipes

Detox Diet Recipes — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 02:41:14 +0000

You know that a lot of those questions have a bit of NLP (neuro linguistic programming) in them. A lot of it is getting leverage on yourself too, thats one big thing in accomplishing new things.

By: Tim Brownson

Tim Brownson — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 14:34:44 +0000

@ Jeremy – On behalf os Ali, let me say thanks!

Not sure where you got that about Python Jeremy, but it certainly is duff information! Python are HUGE in the UK, 30 years after disbanding.

By: Jeremy Day

Jeremy Day — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 04:12:24 +0000

Hi Ali,

Another great post! I love when I run into you everywhere. Rumor has it that the English don’t like Monty as much as Americans do. Is that true?
Anyhow, thanks for the laugh and deep thoughts mixed together. You know, when you are out there trying to achieve something, the worst that can happen is someone tells you “no”. Right?

Cheers,
Jeremy

By: dishthehappyfish

dishthehappyfish — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 00:28:42 +0000

Let’s see….

I am not saying pessimistic is best.

And I am not saying you need to be guarded if thats not your style, (not that there is anything wrong with those who choose to approach life more slowly or cautiously.)

So I guess out of the three choices, I am saying to listen to your intuition and that if you’ve tried to find the good, and you have finished all the scary things on your list, and kept your promises and you still don’t feel a lot better (and this does happen as often as feeling better doing the above things happens), then maybe your fear or pessimism, is for a good, or at least a significant reason. Not all conditioning is bad. Sometimes it is learning.

Learning to distinguish the good and bad reasons for your emotional reaction, and to trust your intuition, to me would seem to lead to very good place. I don’t think most people are able to do this, including myself. So we learn self help tips and hope they will lead to happiness. I have found most self help tips do not work, for many people because they are superficial. You simply cannot train yourself to be happy or fearless, by changing your internal babble. You have to believe the internal babble.

Thank you for helping me clarify. The words don’t always come. And they are just they are just my thoughts and experiences. I don’t claim ever to have anything I say or right be all encompassing.

By: Tim Brownson

Tim Brownson — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 23:37:26 +0000

@ Dishthehappyfish – I’m not sure what you’re saying. It’s best to be pessimistic, it’s best to listen to your intuition or it’s best to be guarded?

By: dishthehappyfish

dishthehappyfish — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 16:40:04 +0000

Hmmm. What’s the worse that could happen? Wasted time and effort. Or worse…YES….then I have to waste more time and effort acting upon whatever scary thing I overcame and did.

How will I feel when I’m done? This one is tricky. I often make myself do stuff and I don’t feel better when I’m done. Sometimes it leads to more stuff I don’t want to do, and I feel worse. I just made one such call, that led to another call and now a meeting….yuk. I don’t want to do any of it. There’s always a new scary thing, making all of life scary.

Promises? They lead to trouble too. Times change. Being stuck in a promise that was made under different circumstances is a waste. It is better not to promise and see what each day brings I think.

Maybe those little fears are telling us something.