Comments on: How To Be Miserable In Marriage, Or Any Relationship For That Matter http://www.adaringadventure.com/guest-posts/how-to-be-miserable-in-marriage-or-any-relationship-for-that-matter/ Life Coaching with Tim Brownson Wed, 08 Feb 2012 23:43:23 +0000 hourly 1 By: Guy Farmer http://www.adaringadventure.com/guest-posts/how-to-be-miserable-in-marriage-or-any-relationship-for-that-matter/#comment-7561 Guy Farmer Fri, 26 Jun 2009 06:33:11 +0000 http://www.adaringadventure.com/?p=2949#comment-7561 Fantastic post. I'm always amazed at how people set themselves up for failure and then wonder incredulously about why things aren't working. Luckily there are some things people can do to move in different directions, namely the opposite of the points you list. I suppose the biggest challenge is for people to take the first step and give themselves the chance to practice some new approaches. The payoff is they get to live wonderful, happy lives and enjoy each other's company. Take care, Guy <abbr><em>Guy Farmers last blog post..<a href="http://lifecoachguy.wordpress.com/2009/06/15/heal-before-you-move-on/" rel="nofollow">Heal before You Move On</a></abbr></em> Fantastic post. I’m always amazed at how people set themselves up for failure and then wonder incredulously about why things aren’t working. Luckily there are some things people can do to move in different directions, namely the opposite of the points you list.

I suppose the biggest challenge is for people to take the first step and give themselves the chance to practice some new approaches. The payoff is they get to live wonderful, happy lives and enjoy each other’s company.

Take care,

Guy

Guy Farmers last blog post..Heal before You Move On

]]> By: idv82 http://www.adaringadventure.com/guest-posts/how-to-be-miserable-in-marriage-or-any-relationship-for-that-matter/#comment-7541 idv82 Thu, 25 Jun 2009 14:05:48 +0000 http://www.adaringadventure.com/?p=2949#comment-7541 Given that George's comment was, at least in part, meant for me: You're more than welcome! In case it was not: Kudos anyway on your "poison - antidote" analogy! Either way, I'm experienced in walking on the less-traveled proverbial thin ice. What else is there to do for an individualist (in the truest sense of the term: a person who pursues independent thought and action) in times where nearly everybody is virtually obsessed with relationships, especially of the romantic persuasion? Lest I should be completely misunderstood: Not that I'm against romantic relations per se - au contraire mes chers amis - but I have to admit that my feelings in this regard are somewhat 'ambivalent' ... a term once aptly defined as the emotions you are likely to experience while watching your mother-in-law drive over a cliff - in your new car. Given that George’s comment was, at least in part, meant for me: You’re more than welcome!

In case it was not: Kudos anyway on your “poison – antidote” analogy!

Either way, I’m experienced in walking on the less-traveled proverbial thin ice. What else is there to do for an individualist (in the truest sense of the term: a person who pursues independent thought and action) in times where nearly everybody is virtually obsessed with relationships, especially of the romantic persuasion? Lest I should be completely misunderstood: Not that I’m against romantic relations per se – au contraire mes chers amis – but I have to admit that my feelings in this regard are somewhat ‘ambivalent’ … a term once aptly defined as the emotions you are likely to experience while watching your mother-in-law drive over a cliff – in your new car.

]]> By: George http://www.adaringadventure.com/guest-posts/how-to-be-miserable-in-marriage-or-any-relationship-for-that-matter/#comment-7535 George Thu, 25 Jun 2009 00:00:50 +0000 http://www.adaringadventure.com/?p=2949#comment-7535 I was looking for insightful advice and I FOUND IT in a nutshell ! While I view negativity as poison, in this case it's used as an effective antidote. Well done ! I was looking for insightful advice and I FOUND IT in a nutshell !

While I view negativity as poison, in this case it’s used as an effective antidote. Well done !

]]> By: idv82 http://www.adaringadventure.com/guest-posts/how-to-be-miserable-in-marriage-or-any-relationship-for-that-matter/#comment-7436 idv82 Mon, 15 Jun 2009 16:08:31 +0000 http://www.adaringadventure.com/?p=2949#comment-7436 My definition of most marriages (or "inseparable" couples in general): two people stubbornly believing in the mathematical formula that two minus give one plus! If you don't enjoy solitude - your own company - what makes you think anyone else will? To paraphrase Nietzsche, if you deprive me of my solitude, you'd better offer me damn good company! Since I can't earn Tim's admiration by following Leonard's priceless example of self-promotion and advertise my own book (I haven't gotten around to that yet), please indulge me advertising someone else's: "Solitude: A Return to the Self" by Anthony Storr Hey Tim, if you want to admire me for anything else, be my guest and feel free to come up with something! Before I forget it, I had a really good time leaving my own company in order to join you on this blog! Thanks for the guffaws and the food for thought! My definition of most marriages (or “inseparable” couples in general): two people stubbornly believing in the mathematical formula that two minus give one plus!

If you don’t enjoy solitude – your own company – what makes you think anyone else will?

To paraphrase Nietzsche, if you deprive me of my solitude, you’d better offer me damn good company!

Since I can’t earn Tim’s admiration by following Leonard’s priceless example of self-promotion and advertise my own book (I haven’t gotten around to that yet), please indulge me advertising someone else’s: “Solitude: A Return to the Self” by Anthony Storr

Hey Tim, if you want to admire me for anything else, be my guest and feel free to come up with something! Before I forget it, I had a really good time leaving my own company in order to join you on this blog! Thanks for the guffaws and the food for thought!

]]> By: Jake | Revive Your Life http://www.adaringadventure.com/guest-posts/how-to-be-miserable-in-marriage-or-any-relationship-for-that-matter/#comment-7166 Jake | Revive Your Life Fri, 15 May 2009 00:16:02 +0000 http://www.adaringadventure.com/?p=2949#comment-7166 Corey, thanks for your interesting perspective. An interesting look into marriage and how to make it fail. Scary and funny. Thanks. <abbr><em>Jake | Revive Your Lifes last blog post..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/reviveyourlife/~3/g_G0fq6QeYY/" rel="nofollow">Identifying and Overcoming Career Burnout</a></abbr></em> Corey, thanks for your interesting perspective. An interesting look into marriage and how to make it fail. Scary and funny. Thanks.

Jake | Revive Your Lifes last blog post..Identifying and Overcoming Career Burnout

]]> By: 13 Ways To Make Your Spouse Hate Sex | Simple Marriage http://www.adaringadventure.com/guest-posts/how-to-be-miserable-in-marriage-or-any-relationship-for-that-matter/#comment-7109 13 Ways To Make Your Spouse Hate Sex | Simple Marriage Thu, 07 May 2009 19:27:38 +0000 http://www.adaringadventure.com/?p=2949#comment-7109 [...] recently wrote a guest post for The Discomfort Zone about how to be miserable in marriage - but this advice applied to marriage as a whole. This time I [...] [...] recently wrote a guest post for The Discomfort Zone about how to be miserable in marriage – but this advice applied to marriage as a whole. This time I [...]

]]> By: Laurie http://www.adaringadventure.com/guest-posts/how-to-be-miserable-in-marriage-or-any-relationship-for-that-matter/#comment-7087 Laurie Tue, 05 May 2009 18:31:40 +0000 http://www.adaringadventure.com/?p=2949#comment-7087 Great points Corey. I would like to add, encourage your dysfunctional parents to move 3 houses up the street. This has been a huge factor that has brought us both to a new level. He he he. I'm dealing with it really pretty well. Really better than the hub and they are HIS parents. I just don't answer the phone or the door. Pretending they aren't there is a great thing. Great points Corey. I would like to add, encourage your dysfunctional parents to move 3 houses up the street. This has been a huge factor that has brought us both to a new level. He he he. I’m dealing with it really pretty well. Really better than the hub and they are HIS parents. I just don’t answer the phone or the door. Pretending they aren’t there is a great thing.

]]> By: Tim Brownson http://www.adaringadventure.com/guest-posts/how-to-be-miserable-in-marriage-or-any-relationship-for-that-matter/#comment-7061 Tim Brownson Fri, 01 May 2009 23:27:17 +0000 http://www.adaringadventure.com/?p=2949#comment-7061 I tend to keep out of the comments somewhat with guest writers, but I just wanted to thank you all for chiming in! Also a big thanks to Corey for writing the post! @ Leonard - I have to say that is the most brazen pieces of self-promotion I have ever had in the comments on this blog. I laughed may ass off, hence I didn't delete it ;-) I tend to keep out of the comments somewhat with guest writers, but I just wanted to thank you all for chiming in!

Also a big thanks to Corey for writing the post!

@ Leonard – I have to say that is the most brazen pieces of self-promotion I have ever had in the comments on this blog. I laughed may ass off, hence I didn’t delete it ;-)

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